These are not my words but words I need to read.

Do not allow fear of the new or the unknown prevent you from moving forward. This is no time to be looking backward. There is nothing there for you: All that you are lay ahead.

What you expect, you will receive. (Not sure I believe this but it sounds good)

Become the master of your mind and not the victim of your thoughts.

Here are some tips on accepting where you are:
- Develop an attitude of faith.
- Be grateful for what you have.
- Keep things in perspective. Just because this specific time in your life is hard, doesn't mean you have a hard life.
- Empower yourself with daily affirmations.
- Don't stand still, keep moving.
- Be patient with yourself.
- Work on letting go of past hurts so that you can embrace life more joyfully.
- Take one day at a time. Don't get overwhelmed by the big picture. Look at today only, get thru today and deal with tomorrow, tomorrow.
-Debbie Martinez

This is really happening

It's February 3, 2014. Not quite a month since I moved out.

Moved out. Moved. Moved sounds better. Less traumatic.

"It's really your fault I didn't go to basketball tonight. 

If you hadn't moved I would have gone like before."

I never thought this would be me. Sure, I've thought about it. For a long time, years. It was just a tiny thought percolating in the back of my brain, as I peeked into the windows of the duplexes down the block and wondered what it was like.


I wouldn't.
I can't.
I won't.

I did.
I am.

This divorce is really happening.